Tuesday, January 4, 2011

My Son and the Neighborhood

I don't think the worst thing that could happen to me is having a child with special needs. I think the worst thing would be to raise a child who is cruel to people with special needs." ~ Matthew Mickelson Butman

Just to get this out of the way-my oldest son (the Wii Monster) has been diagnosed with Autism, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. What does all this look like? Well, to me and my family, he is a sparkling child, a real firecracker. He is *usually* sweet to his sister and cousins, and is always concerned with the safety of babies. He cries easily, hugs quickly, and thinks that Sonic the Hedgehog is second only to the Mario Brothers. He his smart as a whip, but loses his homework. All in all, a delightful kid.

We have been blessed to be surrounded by family and friends that are MORE than supportive. I really don't think its possible to have a more loving environment for him. 

But then he grew up a little. And started Kindergarten. And got neighbors his age. And mommy started getting worried. How would he do in an uninsulated environment. Should I tell the new friends or their parents about his diagnosis and explain THAT is why he is crying over "nothing"? 

I haven't even told him about his diagnosis. Should I start there? Is he too young?

And then we got to play with our neighbors, and with just a little input ("he is still only 5, he is still learning how to ride his scooter, etc")  we established a relationship with a few neighbor boys. Did I have to help out...yeah, a little bit. But those boys and girls were kind. And helpful. And patient. And I didn't even tell them that their new friend had "special needs". They accepted him like he is.

For the most part, the Wii Monster left his worried mommy behind in the driveway while he was racing his new friends on their scooters.

Just as any 5 year old should.


  1. How Fun..love you Sammy
    ~Aunt Mel

  2. That is so awesome! Miss you guys living downstairs from me and getting to see Sam so much. Happy scootering Sammy :) -Tammi

  3. thanks Tammi :)

    And thanks Mel for being my first EVER comment!

  4. I completely understand how you feel and your concerns. I am always wondering the same things about my Abbie. So far, I've only talked with her preschool teachers, whom she loves. Our neighbors know because we lived here during the pregnancy, so they saw it all happening in real time. Like Sam, Abbie hasn't had any issues with kids.

    I'm intrigued about the crying over "nothing." My oldest will do that some times.